Where'd that line go?
I had an entirely different post planned for today - which I'm sure will turn up at a later date - but I feel like this took precedence.
When do you know how much is too much?
I received a response regarding my concert recap post on Friday - from W!W!'s manager. Complete with a little note from Michael. (If you happen upon this post, too, thanks for the response. I appreciate you guys taking the time to send me a message.)
The seemingly out of no-where response made me think. Who exactly is reading my blog and how are they getting here? I use Google Analytics, but it only tells you so much when it comes to how people find your blog. It doesn't account for the people who e-mail the link or have it saved to their favorites from 100 years ago.
I don't link my blog with my Facebook, and the majority of my friends don't have the link.
I love love love all my great followers, and I appreciate when they let me know their reading. Heck, just being a follower shows me who my readers are, and I like that.
But my followers don't account for the 5400 views since January 1st. They don't account for the 55 countries that have accessed my blog in the last 6 months. United Arab Emirates? Turkey? Three different African countries? I can account for a follower in France & followers that have been on vacation in various countries. And I'm sure when I do link-ups for book reviews that some of the readers are international.
I'll be honest, when I first saw Peru on the Analytics map, I had a slight chill run down my back as I imagined J*ran van der Sl**t reading my blog in a dark, damp room, where he has a trash can that he uses to burn evidence of all the women he's off-ed. (Over-reacting? Never!)
It all leads me to the question, though, how much is too much? Where do you draw the line about how much information you share on your blog? I don't share my exact location, but I'm sure if you tried hard enough, you could figure it out. (Unless you're a follower that I trust, then I might have told you.) Obviously you know what I look like as well as half of my family members and friends.
The entire blog business freaks my husband out a wee bit. He asked me, "Isn't it weird that so many people can read your blog and you don't know about it?"
As long as no one is going to stalk me and try to kill me, then no. I love sharing. I like to post pictures and talk about things that matter to me.
To be honest, it's always been in the back of my head that there are lurkers out there. But, I just try to push that to the back of my head and pretend that my followers are the only ones reading.
Obviously I have this blog to document my life for me. I like to look back and see what I was doing a year ago. I obviously can't tell you that I frequent the In-N-Out Burger on 3rd Street on Saturday afternoons. (For the record, we don't have an In-N-Out Burger, nor a 3rd Street. I also don't eat lunch on Saturdays, normally, so all you lurker/stalkers out there, don't get any ideas. :-)) I was under the impression that I wasn't sharing too much information on my blog, but maybe I am. Then again, maybe it's too late?
So, my question for all you readers is How much is too much?
Oh, and Lurkers: Identify yourself. Please and Thanks.

I'm a follower, not a lurker. =]
ReplyDeleteBut to comment, I have 100% been here before! I actually went thru and DELETED some of my past posts with many pictures or something. I never share where I live, where I work, my real name (hence why I go by Mrs. G), my husband's real name, etc.
A piece of advice I was given once was: NEVER say where you're going until you've been there. Don't say, "Oh Im going to Vegas next week" or something. That leaves the door open for ppl to know you're not home, or also where you are. My husband sometimes leaves to work out of the city, and I never once have mentioned that on my blog, b/c then someone, somewhere would know I was alone.
Wow, Im leaving a novel on your comments, HAH, sorry. =]
Anyways, good post! Atleast from the looks of it, I dont think you've shared too much! Not more than anyone else at least. =] I too enjoy bloggy world!
I've only just noticed your blog this past month while working on mine and I'd love to have one of my own like it-for me- almost like a journal to myself. But I stop myself from expanding it for the exact reason you've just discussed. Is it safe for me to post pics of my family? Especially those under the age of 18? What about my work industry? I don't list my location either but it's pretty easy to figure this stuff out from avid bloggers. Clothing in pictures can even give it away. And there are crazy messed up people. Yes we like to think there aren't that many. But why do we always assume they would never target us? What keeps us off their radar? Doesn't a blog even put us further on their radar without us recognizing it due to the anonymity of the web? Are we overreacting? Or not taking it seriously enough? I'd prefer to have an online program that I could use like a blog without having to access the internet-a computer based journal for my eyes only. Does such a thing even exist?
ReplyDeleteYour blog is awesome and a wonderful record of your life for you, but when we can't pick and choose and limit those who can see it and which info they see, it really isn't that safe. After all, the point to the blog is to share our life and when you can't control who you share with, safety is an illusion.
Sorry to be discouraging though because I really do think you have an awesome site.
I struggle with the exact same thing. As soon as I signed up for Google Analytics I started getting freaked out. I've gone back and forth about making my blog private but I enjoy everyone's comments and feedback when i write. I also hate that I have to censor things when I intended for this to be a place where I could be open about my feelings and thoughts.
ReplyDeleteI still haven't figured out how to make myself feel better about it all so if you figure it out let me know!!
It is really freaky sometimes. I've tried to remove most personal info on my blog and never use our first names. Smith is basically saying "I'm a person" so I'm not too worried about that part. :) I don't post where we work either.
ReplyDeleteI do use statcounter. Try that - it's got a little more info than google analytics and it's free. :)
I hear you...but, as my husband says, "welcome to the age of the internet--if someone wants to find you, they can." I mean, facebook isn't even "private", when you think it is-and theres more info there.
ReplyDeleteYou have to do whats best for you, obviously.
I'll be honest, the fact that I've had 86,000 page views in the last 6 months is a bit odd, yes. But, blogging is something I've chose to do (and not for people "reading" either)....
I don't know...I don't personally feel like my 'safetey' is threatened. Thats just me.
Hil-I'm on the same page as you. I try to "guard" myself as best I can and I REFUSE to put where I work (the occasional funny/non-work yet office related stories sometimes make it and I might casually mention an event or two) but my blog is for me. In all honesty, I don't find myself too exciting that anyone would WANT to stalk me but that's just me. Good post!
ReplyDeleteI use google analytics for my mom's store's website, and sometimes I question the accuracy of it. On a normal day when we haven't handed out any flyers or posted our website on our sign or somewhere else, we generally get about 5 views, and they're usually all local. But we've had views from all over the world. Supposedly. Then one day, we had 20-something DIFFERENT viewers from Turkey. I just find that very difficult to believe. So I don't know if the program isn't working correctly, or if it's bots doing it, or what, but I don't know why 20 different people in Turkey would be looking at our website.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, I'm not a follower cause I don't have a blogspot blog, but I do comment, so I don't consider myself a lurker =P
The whole idea kind of freaks me out too, so I just try to stay as neutral as possible. I don't post about places I've been until after I've already gone so that no one knows when I'm not home or where I'm headed. I try not to post that many pictures of myself either, but I still want my blog to be personal so it's hard. I don't really know where the line is...
ReplyDeleteOh gosh, I don't think I should have read this post before bed. I always get worried about the weirdos out there too, and after reading this post just added google analytic. I hope it doesn't freak me out more! I don't post pictures of children and I struggle with the concept of posting them when I do have kids some day. I would love to document so many things on my blog, but sometimes I feel there is definitely a sensor.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with your post. I attempt not to list too much but when documenting your life it is so hard not to slip. My husband is in the same boat as yours....he kind of freaks out about my blogging and the fact that strangers are reading about our lives.
ReplyDeleteBut like others have said....I think there is more of a chance of weirdos finding me from Facebook then through my blog. Gotta love the "privacy" of Facebook.