Drama............... again?

When I was hoping all the brother drama was over (see most Jan-Feb posts), my mom calls me to tell me to check my e-mail, because she's "conversed" with my brother today.

Basically, my sister's birthday is this weekend. My brother in law is throwing her a surprise birthday party (that I don't think is a surprise anymore), and my brother isn't answering anyone's phone calls for someone to invite him. I personally have stayed out of everything since Jan/Feb, except to wish my brother a happy birthday in June.

My mom sends my brother an e-mail to invite him to my sister's party. She points out that "the boys" (my brother's 8 year old and 1 year old) shouldn't have to lose touch with their family just because of something that happened with their parents. Reasonable, right?

He responds telling my mom to leave my sister's family out of it (umm.. she was writing to invite you to my SISTER'S party)... And to say that his wife had her feelings hurt very badly and that no one (i.e. my dad and I) have done nothing but make it worse. Again, I haven't spoken to them since all this happened.

So, my mom does what any worn-out-with-the-whole-issue-mom would do and said, "Fine, I'll stop contacting you, and it's a shame I won't get to know W (my brother's son with his current wife), but please have M (my brother's son from his first marriage) call me, since you don't want me calling you." And leaves it at that. I mean, what else is there to do?

On one hand, I'm irate that he's still blaming this partly on me. I mean, really? And I want to say something to both of them to let them know that I'm so over it, I can't remember how it all got started. I don't have problems with anyone. I won't let my guard down again, EVER, but I am not a complete bitch. I can be cordial.. maybe even friendly. But it doesn't matter what I say, I'm going to do something wrong. I'll say something wrong. I'll say it to the wrong person. I'll say it at the wrong time. It doesn't matter, it WILL BE WRONG. So, why would I even bother?

And a side note about the spider post, that isn't a picture of our spider, but it's a picture of a HOBO spider, the same one.